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4月13日 INVISIBLE STAINSINVISIBLE STAINS ON OUR
LIFE
by Luella May 2006 The Ladies
Conference I attended recently actually turned out to be worthwhile this time. I
learned about why we do certain things, why we have certain automatic responses.
I am not referring necessarily to favorable responses, but negative ones. It is
because we carry invisible stains. Invisible stains from experiences in
childhood and they color our lives, our decisions, and our reactions. However,
all is not lost. We can realize what stains we have and we can work on them. We
don't necessarily have to live our lives having these stains leave destructive
spots in our lives. They will always be there, but we can be aware of them and
pour our healing bleach on them. Some we can totally obliterate, some we can
only lighten. Some have affected us so, that they are always there and will
never go away. However, just knowing why we are reacting in a certain way, we
can learn and modify our reactions, thereby creating a better life.
You see, we are not children anymore. We are adults and we really do have control of our lives. Let the adult in you take responsibility for the child in you and have that adult care for that child. These reactions can cover so many areas of your life, that it would almost be impossible to delve into each one, in this short blog. Maybe I shall write an article on this and feature it on the blog one day soon. However, let me skim over this a bit and explain it a bit. I do hope to touch someone out there. I know, I was certainly touched. These are the most important factors that cause you to have low self esteem and to live your life with a nagging feeling of shame. This is what holds you back. Here are your primary invisible stains. 1. You are an Ilegitimate Child: This one has lost its punch in today's society, in America anyway, but it is still there. Well for us older folks though, back when we were children those born of unmarried parents were looked down upon and even ostracized. This is a most painful invisible stain for someone to have to live with. And there are people out there now walking around with this stain. Oh, you may have dealt with it now, you feel better about it now, you may not even think of it. But it is a stain you carry about with you. Notice your reactions to circumstances. How do you feel about yourself? How is your self esteem? One carrying this most painful stain needs to realize that regardless of society's views they are a person no less valuable than anyone else. Society places labels on us. You are either worthy or worthless. NOBODY IS WORTHLESS. You are in this world to learn, grow, and enrich yourself, just as anyone else. Although our world has changed where this is not such a stigma anymore, you will be surprised at how many there are that make you feel as though you are not worthy. Hold your head high and live your life. Know who you are and what you are and learn how to blot this stain out. It cannot be done overnight, but it can be learned and practiced. Eventually, you will have freed yourself from one of the chains that bind you. Who cares what others think? Not only on this subject, but on any other subject. TO READ THE ENTIRE ARTICLE and other articles please visit :- Luella May is currently the Editor and co-founder of The Corner 4 Women http://thecorner4women.com which also has its own free forum http://thecorner4women.com/Forum and writes exclusively for Luella's Corner at http://oakwoodgrafix.co.uk/blog/LuellasCorner/ with her personal inspirational stories. 引用通告 (1)此日志的引用通告 URL 是： http://oakywood.spaces.live.com/blog/cns!829C9C4A05358454!164.trak 引用此项的网络日志
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